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I find this a pretty sad and disparaging discussion of positive illusions in romantic relationships. Particularly when well-written and respected research in the area has demonstrated that positive illusion in partner perception is associated with greater relationship satisfaction (Murray & Holmes, 1993, 1994; Murray, Holmes, & Griffin, 1996a), fewer conflict and doubt (Murray, Holmes, & Griffin, 1996b), and relationship longevity (Murray, Holmes, & Griffin, 1996b).
This article and these comments give positive illusion a terrible name and reputation, when in fact, idealizing a partner is something that is a huge strength of a relationship.
Shame on the author.
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