Thank you so much for your eloquent reply to this article. I am suffering in an abusive relationship at the moment, and have had all of my friends pull away because I am 'enabling' the abuse. I am too scared to leave, that's why I'm 'enabling' it. Police and others don't always understand the difficulty with leaving.

I was reading this article and feeling really down, like it's my fault. I already excused a lot of my partner's behaviour by feeling sorry for him and feeling guilty... and you know what? It made everything so much worse and gave him more control over me, and now I'm in the biggest mess of my life that I feel suicidal thinking about.

Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but this article is quite dangerous for those suffering at the hands of an abuser. They are already told all the time it's their fault. It's quite common for them to really believe it and explain it to others that way too. The fact that these articles are written by MH professionals is also scary.

It's very common that abusers actually manipulate MH professionals and end up using them as a tool to further abuse the victim. They can often be very text book orientated in their thinking. Sad this is some people (abusers) are just evil people on a power trip.

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