Dear Susan,

I found your article on The Un-divorced very interesting and true. I am one of those people who want to leave a marriage but because of the amount of money that would be lost if we try to sell the house I stay and put up to the abuse of my husband. Most of the money I had I used to make the down payment on the house and now the house is valueing way less than what we bought it for. I now realize that I am not alone, which is a little comforting, but a very unhealthy way to live.