A few questions:

1. I would like to know the role of emotional intimacy. In other words, many people, men and women alike, have socialized fears of intimacy, largely due to having parents with these issues who pass them along. Also, if a man and woman who are married both have issues with emotional intimacy I suspect this means they will have difficulty bonding both in a social sense and in a hormonal sense. And some of their adulterous sexual behavior may actually be acting out emotional conflicts?

2. I was perplexed by the author's statement that he saw no reason to admonish male cheaters. If men can choose to be good dads or not, and they choose the latter, whether to keep their testosterone levels high or not, why are we not admonishing them? We know, from Kyle Pruett's work and Terry Real's work (both men), how damaging it is to children not to have good fathers. Fathercare greatly increases children's success (including their ability to reproduce and pass on those genes).

3. I have read that high testosterone levels are thought to be oppositional to health. So, a man who elects to be a good dad and his testosterone levels reduce may increase his life span?

4. The author does not look at how testosterone levels in a monogamous marriage change if a man has more or less sex with his wife. I would like to know the answer to this. Could there be an optimal level that does not fuel a desire to cheat but that makes the man still feel like he's enough of a man to keep up with all the single men and cheater men out there?

I think it's time to stop glorifying testosterone.

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