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Well, also keep in mind the cases where the poor victim is the one arrested. My girlfriend was in an abusive marriage and one night, after discovering her spouse was cheating, it got heated. She followed him up the stairs, at which point he shoved her on the stairwell. She grabbed onto him as a natural reaction to avoid falling leaving scratches on her chest. She then called her mother because she was afraid. Her mother overheard her daughters husband threaten to kill her daughter, then the phone goes dead because the husband took the phone, shut it off, then hid it so there could be no more calls for help.
The girl's mother panicked at what she heard, called the local police where her daughter lived, and they went to check out the scene. The disregarded what the mother reported hearing, which was in the 911 call. They disregarded the girl's demeanor (crying, shooken up, protecting her husband by saying she didn't want to get him in any trouble). They saw he had scratches and immediately went after her. She pleaded with them explaining he threatened her, shoved her on the stairwell, and then took her phone away from her. They ignored it all and arrested her. Nearly ruined her life. She almost got booted out of nursing school, couldn't post bail right away and sat in jail an entire weekend. Almost couldn't afford an attorney to get the charges dismissed finally after a very traumatic experience. Now she says she couldn't call the police if someone was shooting at her.
Sadly, I discovered the police missed 3 charges against the husband. Harassment by threat to commit assault. Harassment by hiding her phone to create fear. Assault and battery by taking the phone phsically from her hands. Keep in mind, the threat and the phone being taken away were overheard by a third party that serves as a KEY witness. So, most victims are reluctant because most police are bad at their jobs and don't consider totality of circumstances, or that a victim was acting in defense.
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