From the other side, I'd say: yes, right now the child is more important than my friendship with you, and if you need me to choose, please shut the door on your way out.

Don't refer to me as a 'breeder' if you want to be friends, because it's not friendly. I don't refer to you as a 'dead end'.

If you don't like my child, or my partner or my pets, please keep it to yourself, and just try to make dates with me alone. Equally, I will be respectful of your feelings about the things that are important to you in your life.

We don't live in each other's pockets so we don't need to pick on things about each other that we dislike. Let's agree to concentrate on things we enjoy doing together, celebrate our shared interests and respect our differences.

I don't think your life revolves around selfish indulgences or I don't think I'd bother to be your friend.

I don't assume you dislike children or families. I'll follow your lead on this - I'll believe what you show me your feelings are.

I'm glad your marriage is fine(?!) I didn't think it wasn't.

I'm glad you don't feel empty (you're starting to weird me out a bit). Also, I'm not sure that I'm not as involved as you are, I'm just involved in different things...

If you have to cancel a plan or get off the phone for any reason, I promise not to be offended either. I trust you'll let me do these things if I need to, even if it doesn't involve my child.