Thanks for a great article with some valuable advice. I have been and off online dating sites for a longtime and while I haven't found any success, a friend of mine did. He found someone quick and got married, but I am not certain his case was common. I think a lot of the success depends on the expectations people have in finding their mates, their emotional state of mind, and how well they communicate. While online dating sites haven't provided much success for me, they have provided me a good opportunity to improve my communications skills(something I have had feedback for). I have also tried speed dating joining groups with similar interests. These haven't provided any success either, but I have met a lot of new people and they have provided some fun while going through the journey. At this point, I haven't been looking because I have gone through the tragedies of losing both of my parents and have needed the time to grieve through this process. Once I have gone through it(it has been nine months so far), I will feel ready to try again. In the meantime, I have focused on learning new hobbies, like ballroom dancing and a foreign language(French) which have helped to make this process more enjoyable.