Values are what bring distinction to your life. You don't find them, you choose them. And when you do, you're on the path to fulfillment.
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Of course there are bad reasons to stay friends with ex's and the reasons are outlined very clearly in this piece. Your comment, while well-meaning, is extremely naive due to equating all conflicts to mental blockages. You sound like you're dealing with some painful experience and are trying to be positive to work through it. Good luck
The desire to be seen in a positive light can give rise to dangerous behaviors.
Anxiety about rejection can undermine satisfaction.
Doing well can be a double-edged sword.
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