Values are what bring distinction to your life. You don't find them, you choose them. And when you do, you're on the path to fulfillment.
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During our relationship, my ex mentioned several times that he's friends with his exes. After I broke up with him after three and a half years, he wanted to be friends with me. I told him no - I don't need a reminder of a failed relationship calling me at inopportune times. I needed a clean break. He kept calling on a monthly basis. I finally had to block his calls. The only ex I had to remain friends with was my ex-husband, for the sake of our two children. A forced friendship by our lawyers. Now that our children are grown, I don't have to communicate with him except at family life changes, graduations, marriages, etc. I don't see any point in remaining friends with an ex.
The desire to be seen in a positive light can give rise to dangerous behaviors.
Anxiety about rejection can undermine satisfaction.
Doing well can be a double-edged sword.
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