I attended CoDA meetings, sometimes two a week, for nearly two years. Our groups were too small to have sponsers. I went every week, dumped my guts & went home.
I couldn't relate to any readings in our Big Book—I'd never married or had kids—so relating to my group members was a huge problem. But I read, and meditated, and attended more meetings. Did anything happen? Damned if I know. The groups never met outside of meetings, so my only exposure to fellowship was in them.

I had no idea how to guage if anything was changing, or if anything ever did. I was talking about the same unsolvable intrapersonal crap without any idea of what to do about it. People talk about "growth" like it's something I'm supposed to understand. I'm sick of guessing, because I'm not learning a damned thing!