I was under the impression that counterfactual thinking falsely generates or proves a perception of control over certain situations something that might not always be the case. I know that the purpose of this post is to suggest a few ways to regain control over your life but isn't it also true that counterfactual thinking also protects or even keeps people from setting more attainable goals as you also add or from facing some truths about themselves ? I don't really have the answer, I am just wondering. People prefer to attribute their shortcomings to controllable aspects of themselves rather than to personality traits which are harder to change.
Thank you for a wonderful post !