Values are what bring distinction to your life. You don't find them, you choose them. And when you do, you're on the path to fulfillment.
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Yes,unfortunately, I believe you are right about that. Some people see the world through the lens of competition, and measure themselves against every person they meet to determine who is dominant and who is subordinate. They strive to ensure that they are always the "winner"--the dominant one. When seen through this lens, suffering is indeed viewed as weakness and inferiority.
I am sorry to hear that people who were close to you blamed you rather than comforted you in your time of distress. I hope you were able to find human kindness somewhere in your life to feed your strength of spirit and to restore your faith in human nature.
The desire to be seen in a positive light can give rise to dangerous behaviors.
Anxiety about rejection can undermine satisfaction.
Doing well can be a double-edged sword.
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