Hah! I'm waiting for February specific climate change to stop falling, so that I can dig out. This six inches or so of climate would be noteworthy here in August, but I find it to be not at all unusual, tho inconvenient, in the moment.

Point being, I have some time to learn, and thru a circuitous route, I found this very informative article and couldn't resist commenting.

MoveLikeWater wrote:

Examples of Privilege are things like men being considered more confident, women being considered better parents, heterosexual relationships being considered more stable, or that someone who appears to be Asian is good at math.

There is also the well known meme of White Privilege. Either God or the Atheist made me a White American Male, and my sixty years of experience indicates that this is what I am, and that what I do is largely, but not completely, up to me. There are always going to be people who get in one's way and cause one problems. I personally know that the reason I'm not a millionaire is because I didn't do many of the things which make one a millionaire.

I also know that there are starving children in Africa, aborted female babies in china, hordes of people being slaughtered in the mid-east, racial problems in many of our cities and counties, a very corrupt government pandering to connected corporate insiders here in the USA, and on and on and on. The White Privilege Meme ascribes some personal responsibility to me for these things. I just add here, that the idea or meme of Privilege is used to demean people who hold other than the demeanor's philosophy.

I have also run into people who consciously consider themselves to be privileged and entitled. Rich, poor, black, and white. Whether these people wish to admit it or not, they have chosen to see themselves as Privileged. Sometimes, by my observation, that "privilege" gives them cause to cast me in some undeserved stereotype.

This is where, I think, Ms. Sheff errs, and errs rather significantly:

"In general, privilege is not about consciously believing that you’re better than other people; it’s about assuming that you are normal -- and that other people probably should want the same things you want".

She uses the word "should" when the word "could" would be a fairer term. I do assume that I'm "normal"; there's a long line of reasoning which, by my telling, indicates that if I am not normal, then nobody is normal. From a standpoint of indviduality and liberty, I hold that this viewpoint is, well, normal. There is such a commonsense thing as normality, but it is a range, not a point. Why wouldn't I assume that other people, if they could so choose, could choose to be normal? It's not a privilege, it's a choice. It turns out that I'm in a pretty small minority in that I believe strongly in choice.

Still, there are plenty of people who hold that I "should" do this, or I "should" do that. In the case of the topic at hand, whaddaya call it?

I wouldn't call it "Couple Privilege". Perhaps "Traditional 20th Century Typical American Couple Dynamic Often Imposed on Others"? Which doesn't exactly roll off the tongue, I know.

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