Values are what bring distinction to your life. You don't find them, you choose them. And when you do, you're on the path to fulfillment.
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Privileges are things that one person, or group, receives benefits from without action or accomplishment of their own. Examples of Privilege are things like men being considered more confident, women being considered better parents, heterosexual relationships being considered more stable, or that someone who appears to be Asian is good at math. Privilege as a sociological concept is used to combat societally embedded behaviors and thoughts that oppress marginalized groups. It is intended to combat life oppressing bigotry and biases. It should not be used as a club to bash and bully people into marginalization.
When you enter into a new relationship you are always playing with the same set of resources: how much do you want to be in the relationship and how much trust you have in the other person. Whether you are entering into a brand new dyad, an existing polycule, or even a sports team you are always taking on the same act: entering (or eschewing) an individual relationship with every existing member.
Your description of "couple privilege" demeans everyone by pretending that an existing couple has not earned the trust they have in each other. Whether it is a friendship, a romantic partnership, or a family member there will always be a disparity of trust between existing relationships and new relationships. The demand of equal treatment for no investment is the only real Privilege that you describe in your article.
Complaining that people in an existing relationship protect each other is like complaining that certain jobs have uniforms, or drug-testing. If you don't like the rules don't join.
What are they and how do they stay together without recognizable commitment?
Flexible relationships provide support for adults and children.
Five ways to distinguish these similar-sounding relationship types
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