Hello Tom!
I realize it's been years since you posted this, but many years later I found myself in a dating relationship with so many similarities to your share. Namely, I expressed how much I want to help meet the needs and wants of my partner (if I can), but that I can't mind read and if they will only share them with me.

Well, they never did share with me until the break up of the relationship.

So, I am curious if you can provide an update on your situation?