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What if you are insecurely attached and don't find secure partners appealing? I've only been attracted to dismissive avoidant types while I am anxious pre-occupied.
It feels nearly impossible to love someone who is securely attached. There isn't anything there to create an emotional bond. It also feels unnatural in love to just "be with someone" whose good for you on paper. Romanticism highly overrate the initial feeling of falling in love and for good reason it's usually to establish bonds while dating someone new.
While insecurely attached people haven't bonded with secure types itsn't it no brainer that secure types prefer to be with other secure types? What are the insecure types to do if they haven't quite sorted out their issues? Attempt to be secure when they are not?
Not every securely attached person is going to be that patient if they could also choose to be with someone who is emotionally stable without much trouble.
I'm not denying that being secure is better but if you're not secure it almost sounds like if you didn't have a great childhood and now have realized at adulthood to change your ways it's not going to happen overnight after reading an article about it. Surely everyone is deserving of love even if they are not secure. Can't two insecure types learn to be in a secure relationship? Why not? Seeing as nearly half of the population is insecure... why isn't that a option? Are secure people never wrong and perfect examples of how relationships should be?
Do perfect relationship examples even exist? I wonder...
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