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This explains a lot - I was always a little fuzzy on how people could transfer THEIR feelings to someone else. I always thought they must be aware that they were feeling whatever-it-was and made a choice that they didn't want to so they did something to make me feel like that instead. But from this article it doesn't sound like they're making a conscious choice. It sounds like they aren't even aware of the feeling they want to avoid.
It was also new to me to learn that one of the emotions that people try to avoid feeling is guilt. Can the feeling of guilt be transferred then too? Or, is it usually just anger? Or, is it anger AND guilt - the guilt being a 'by-product' (so to speak) of getting angry? I've experienced a lot of unhealthy / irrational guilt in my life, so I was curious. Thanks so much.
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