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Largely, I agree with this. However, there is something to be said for sticking things out that are uncomfortable. Wisdom lies in knowing when to quit and when to persevere and thus build character that would not and could not be built any other way. But, that story of that suicide really breaks my heart. School often does feel like a jail and being a kid these days is tough. There are a lot of obstacles.
As Morrie Schwartz said, “All this emphasis on youth - I don’t buy it. Listen, I know what a misery being young can be, so don’t tell me it’s so great. All these kids who came to me with their struggles, their strife, their feelings of inadequacy, their sense that life was miserable, so bad they wanted to kill themselves... and in addition to all the miseries, the young are not wise. They have very little understanding about life. Who wants to live everyday when you don’t know what’s going on?”
I also remember hearing a quote awhile ago that said something to the effect of, "No wise person ever wanted to be young again." That is worth examining. 1) Wisdom comes through unavoidable suffering (as no one willing suffers) and 2) youth is not enviable (as Morrie Schwartz pointed out already).
So, for me at least, the question still remains: when should we quit and when should we persevere in the faith that we will become better people for having "stuck with it"?
But still, quitting should be more of an option. If doubt isn't possible, neither is faith. If choosing not to go to school and learn there isn't possible, then neither is truly attending and learning possible.
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