I've heard about the "locus of control" relative to happiness; people who feel that they are in control of themselves and their happiness depends on them are generally happier people and people who feel out of control, battered about by external events, are less happy. I think that ties into marriage satisfaction. People who are unhappy and expect marriage to make them happy are bound to be disappointed. People who were already happy and chose to marry tend to stay happy (and I imagine their marriages start off on a much better note, since they're just enjoying it and not expecting anything of it). I think it all probably has a lot less to do with marriage itself than we think.

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