Excellent article, based on very important research.

As a couple therapist (and fellow PT blogger) I would say that you are spot on in identifying one important and quite accessible way to turn a relationship that is spiraling downward into one that is increasingly positive.

I'm an advocate of skills in marriage. At the same time, attitude probably trumps skills. A positive attitude of gratitude in folks who lack collaborative communication skills probably enables them to get by just fine, whereas a negative attitude blocks people from using the skills that may be in their repertoir but have been pushed to the back of the closet.