in my circle the couples that make similar money, have lower expectations for kids (community college) indulge themselves (Disney vacations, nice SUV's) seem to be the happiest. They as a couple speak as one (I have had a number kind of belittle me as a striver too involved with kids(now grown and working as nurses from top colleges) for my own prestige) and are very sure their way is best (I am not sure of my way but they are of theirs). Their body language tells me they have a sex life (we seem to have none) and I sometimes wonder if my hard work was worth it(my wife also wonders but she loves talking about the good results). Very confusing and not what I expected