Most advice for guys on gaining sexual confidence assumes he is already in bed with his partner - or at least that he has one. I’m 52 and have never been on even one date in my life, let alone had a partner or gone to bed with anyone. I am totally sexually invisible to women - I have lots of women friends - some of whom are extremely attractive - but I am completely unable to express sexual desire to anyone no matter how close I am to them or how attracted I am to them. I have spoken to therapists about this over the years but therapy (CBT, psychotherapy, etc.) has been completely ineffective. Life is lonely watching couples of all ages go by and knowing I will never experience any form of intimacy.