Growing up, I felt like I was in a constant state of punishment. I could not accomplish anything without being told it could have been better. The thing is that I accomplished many great things. I earned my college degree and worked in the government for over thirty years. My family just felt like I 'could have done better'.

My grandmother was one of my biggest supporters. She left an inheritance to me that was separate from the rest of the family. They took me to court and tried to say that I had influenced my grandmother and I was not deserving of the gift. The court decided in my favor and they have not communicated with me since.

I'm now in my 60's and retired, very close to my own children, happy and comfortable. I have no desire to see my family members and want no surprise visits. They would not be welcome.