I teach I-statements to my students who have difficulty expressing their feelings. In my un-trained opinion, the real benefit is that stating your own feelings First put you in the position of power. I come first. What You did is secondary. (Someone above questioned the effectiveness of the order.)

The problem I have with using I-statements (and I Do use them in my regular life), is that we (in the US) live in a society buitl on passive aggressive behaviors, on speaking and reading between the lines. So when a person is fully upfront and uses an I-Statement to express him/herself, the other party often tries to find the non-existent "hidden meaning" instead of taking the statement at face value. Or responds negatively because it's uncomfortable to be straight forward.

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