It's disturbing that out of all the comments regarding this piece, not one addresses its implication that a woman's value is in her physical beauty, and worse yet, her ability to attract men. Competitiveness is inherent in humans, but competition based on outer beauty and the ability to attract the most men is a social construct that is sexist at its core. I get what the author is saying, and her advice seems productive, but centering such advice around competition for male attention only serves to reinforce a false notion that has plagued the female population for far too long. That notion is what has damaged the self-esteem of most women and put us at odds with one another in the first place.