So I shouldn't let it bother me that even though she's never even met me she told him I was a pathetic bitch and a loser. She then proceeded to write him emails for three years about how he should dump me for a weekend and go have sex with her.

And she calls and hangs up on me. But he still defends her. Tells me how "zen" she is and calm. Yet I have never called her or written her. She used to send him cards with kisses on them. And he defends her every time.