This helps. 'The profound experience of mourning may inspire a range of grief responses and adaptive strategies, all of which can enrich and ease your journey. And you will not only survive, you will emerge transformed—not because you were dealt adversity, but because you learned how to cope, adjust, and find peace in the face of it.' I will write these sentences out and keep them posted up in my home. It is impossible sometimes not to feel like a piece of rubbish (even if some part of your minds tells you that's not true) but realizing that everybody faces adversity at some point and not just you is a very consoling thought. Makes it part of being human I guess. Thank you for your very helpful words.