Just as frequently as any of the examples given in the article, the grudge holder is very often an adult child, or spouse an adult child, who superimposes their grudge onto the innocent children. When it comes to grudge holders who superimpose adult to adult relationship issues and conflicts onto innocent children, this well-meaning advice of just finally moving on and ending the relationship certainly does not take into consideration that unfairness of the experience for the innocent child.

Just bowing out of the relationship completely with the children of the grudge holder and letting the grudge holder hold old onto the grudge for as long as it takes certainly presents a double trauma for the child.

If there is ever going to be any hope of sustainably improving on the future psychological well-being of future generation, at some point we do need to call this type of behavior what it is loud and clear, emotional child abuse.

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