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My opinion about why personality is not the best way to go alone. first off as a man of almost 50yrs I have to say dating women based solely on personality doesn't not work. Birds and other animals don't just choose buy looks so neither should humans. I tried many of the so called online dating sites and I tried meeting in real places. Online dating is a true fantasy of BS. Lets be honest to ourselves. When you are out looking in the real world you have specific things you are looking for before you even get to personality. That could range from eyes to legs breasts or bottoms and in most cases all of the above. This is a part of dating that has been omitted by all online dating sites who claim to be the real deal when it comes to love. In reality this is a pure fantasy made of lies created by magazines and polls most don't have the guts to answer truthfully. For example, Size doesn't matter.... BS. I don't care who you are size does matter in one way or another and I don't mean just the sex parts. Just like other animals in the world humans have the things that attract and using an algorithm based on just a couple of people isn't going to find anyone true love because it is already breaking the number one rule of dating. You are beginning on a lie but in our day of political correctness people have been led to believe they can find true love based on questions about personality only and showing a few pictures. Be honest and admit the truth, if you like big butts you are looking for a woman with that feature first and foremost. Same goes for women, the only true statement out there in the online dating world is there is someone for everyone. Problem is as long as we are offended by our choices of body type no one is going to find permanent true love. Even if it works out in getting married this is likely not going to last as you are denying one of the primal instincts you hunt with. Granted you will have to settle in some ways but your basic types are not what you are truly happy settling for. Example for me? I look for Eyes, boobs and legs before approaching a woman. Then I look for personality honesty and baggage. Last I look to see how much she indulges in drinking, food, smoking and drugs. If this woman meets those basic traits then I ask her out. If she is missing just one of those basic things I pass on her because they are essential to my happiness. Then it is her turn on my part, I must match her idea of perfect match. In reality, none of these things are accepted as true choices for online dating. Size does matter for everything and there is no way curvy is another word for obese to be blunt. Every person has a range of acceptable and not one of these sites allows you to use what really matters to each and every person out there. Even fetish sites devoted to the more grotesque aspects of the dating personality barely skim what it takes to really find what you are looking for. In honesty people should not be ashamed of what they have. This is something society has posed as how it should be and that is a total lie. If I want a woman with a bra size of DD or bigger I should be able to list that with no discrimination just like eye color. Love is not a general thing and neither should being able to profess what you are looking for if you truly want to find your match. If you are a person who is ashamed of what you have being described then you shouldn't be surprised when you get something you don't really want. I can't be anymore blunt than this. Those women offended by what a man wants or men feeling the same should really take into consideration and be honest with yourselves that it hurts much more in the long run not starting out with what you want being honest up front than having each of your expectations destroyed by the lies we do now. Best example is breast size and nipple size for women and penis size for men. If I am on a date with a woman wearing a pushup bra or a bra consealing her true nipple size, she is going to hate me very much when I get that thing off of her. I don't do lies and this to me is worse than a lie. She would be dumped right then and there. Same goes with if I put a sock in my pants to make it bigger, do you honestly think the woman who chooses me is going to stay once the truth is exposed? Hell no she won't. So why be offended by body types being listed with parts? I find that more shallow than being honest. I don't want to be with a woman who really wants a huge penis because this will affect her sexually and emotionally accepting me for my 5 1/4 inch. So in the same manner why should a woman want me to accept her for having breasts or other parts that don't match my expectations just to get her personality. This is going to affect both personalities in the long run and ruin what you have which is why I said this is the same as starting based on a lie.
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