Experts suggest ways to correct habits that keep us from resting well
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Without more context of your post, I cannot say much beyond what is written. So, I'll reply simply with "A good question to ask someone with BPD, or any Cluster B disorder, is "Who has been toxic in your life?"
Chances are their behaviors are learned responses to early and prolonged toxicity in their lives.
For you, just don't be a toxic person, and they won't respond that way.
How to avoid being pulled into controlling relationships.
And what you can do about it
Don't get caught in the middle of a difficult relationship.
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