What about when anger is used to coerce and punish? What if it's ego-defensive blind anger? Should I bear with someone's anger toward me because I didn't act as they required me to, because I thought, with good reason, that they were mistaken? Should I bear with someone exploding at me with unregulated rage because they can't help but take their feelings as proof of their view of reality?
I choose to walk away from relationships where this happens, and I feel all the better for not having to fight, or worse, submit. As Mark Twain wrote, never fight with a pig. You just get dirty, and the pig likes it. If I have a disagreement with someone and they make a pig of themself over it instead of approaching the subject and me with openness and curiosity, I've discovered it's better to recognize what's happening and walk away.

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