I once had a friend whom I would contact and then hear nothing for weeks or months. She would then “initiate” contact, never mentioning that I had reached out first. This seems merely annoying, but it happened over and over, and began to feel disrespectful and manipulative, since I had confirmation that she had always received the initial contact. When I finally mentioned this bothered me, she ignored that, too. I mentioned it again, and finally she denied we had ever had a conversation about it. Since I had saved the emails, that was too much. I realized that other red flags had been there for a long time, but I was trying to be decent and kind and give her the benefit of the doubt. I think that toxic people take advantage in this way, because they know that if there is any doubt, most people usually give them a pass. I am wiser now.

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