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Thank you for once again sharing some of your earliest memories. Although the research literature emphasizes the average age of 3 as typical of earliest memories, I have encountered a number of people who can report memories of experiences that occurred when they were between 1 and 3 years old. One reason for the discrepancy might be the implicit definition of "memory" that instructions in research elicit. People might assume that they are to report coherent experiences. Reports of memories before age 3 are often more fragmentary with a more narrow focus on features of the environment. The nature of these reports is consistent with how an infant encounters the world. Even the vantage point of an infant is different, as the infant is viewing the physical world in a more limited way. At the same time, the infant is developing cognitively in ways you describe. Initially, babies engage in "magical thinking" from an egocentric perspective. Your account of learning that your mother couldn't read your mind or know your thoughts illustrates how infants learn from experience in order to advance beyond magical thinking. Similarly, your memory of playing with your sister reveals how you advanced beyond egocentric thinking. You began to see the world from the point of view of another person as well as from your own.
A most interesting aspect of your memories is the focus on having been an "observer." To some extent, young children are observers in that they have very little control over their lives. Your experiences, however, suggest that they might also reflect your experiences as a "middle" child. If you had siblings older and younger than yourself, you might have had the sense of being observer that often comes with that birth order status.
The fact that you are an illustrator and graphic artist does suggest that your most vivid permanent memories reflect those things that bring you the most pleasure and that are most important and meaningful to you.
Thank you so much for contributing your valuable insights and reflections!
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