Many of us know that forgiveness is a good thing, right?
But what about forgiving ourselves?
Even if we’ve gotten pretty good and consistent about offering forgiveness to others, isn’t forgiving ourselves often the most difficult?
Understanding why self-forgiveness is difficult can give us clues to make it easier....
Why is forgiveness such a loaded question? Because many believe that somehow the victim has to be the bigger person, raise himself up to a higher standard than the perpetrator and make amends to reach the Kingdom of Heaven.I saw "Hogwash!"
Forgiveness has been tossed around self-help circles for years, but little has been made of what it means in the context of research and what the science behind forgiveness can teach us about our own lives.
Forgiveness is the act of compassionately releasing the desire to punish someone or yourself for an offense. It’s a state of grace, nothing you can force or pretend. There are no short cuts. Learn the benefits of forgiveness and how you can experience it.
Most of us hold at least some misconceptions about forgiveness, so before you take steps toward forgiving someone, you need to understand what it is. Here are some things that forgiving someone doesn't mean:
Forgiveness doesn't mean you are pardoning or excusing the other person's actions.
Forgiveness doesn't mean you need to tell the person that he or she is forgiven.