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Holly Parker, Ph.D.
The very steps we’re taking to keep ourselves safe could leave us vulnerable to thinking that we’re more shielded against COVID-19 than we actually are.
Research suggests that people misread what’s happening inside their partner's head 65-80% of the time. What might help?
Why are people more likely to agree to give to charity when they know they may not have to make good on their word?
Have you ever kept something hidden from a romantic partner? If so, you’re definitely not alone. Available evidence indicates that roughly 60% of people have done so.
We all have a powerful tool of human good will at our disposal, words of genuine and thoughtful appreciation that take just a few moments to give to another.
The results imply that the moments between partners and how they handle conflict can make a difference for their health over time.
Research highlights the potential of brief, connected moments.
If you have a smaller circle of friends and feel self-conscious about it, consider the possibility that you actually have more friend appeal than you realize.
When temptation calls you to send a text or an email, consider calling or video chatting instead. Research suggests that you and your relationships will be better off for it.
If you’ve ever expressed pride and felt hesitant as you did so, questioning whether it was okay to feel this way and wondering how the other person regarded you, you’re not alone.
Given how common it is to turn away from emotions, it’s worth considering whether it works. If we tell ourselves we’re not supposed to feel an emotion, do we feel better?
People who opposed masks and social distancing may think their views stem from their own ideas, but they’re not actually thinking and acting as freely as they might believe.
There’s never a guarantee that the person you’re talking to will be supportive, but there’s a good chance that you have more to gain by sharing achievement than covering it up.
Studies point out some persuasive reasons to step into the uncharted territory of couples therapy.
Our commitment to truly standing against racism can’t be a spark in time that dwindles, but an ongoing way of living that is lifelong.
Among the tragedies that have emerged from this pandemic, there are a few bright spots, and in my view, the leap of telepsychology into mainstream use is definitely one of them.
As many partners spend more time together than ever, these conditions are shining a real light on a question that would have only been a hypothetical one before this pandemic.
Once we’ve figured out what kind of boredom we’re dealing with, then we can find out how to give ourselves what we need.
If you harshly criticize yourself, you’re not alone, and it’s not a failing on your part—even if the inner critic tells you it is.
Resolutions aren't a self-punishing exercise in pointlessness. Sometimes what gets in the way is how we pursue the changes we want, and research casts more light on this issue.
If we only look at how we behave toward our partner during conflict, science suggests that we’ll miss something else that’s worthy of attention: How we relate to our own emotions.
It's tempting to think that bogus news stories would be obvious to us. Yet research points to the sorry truth that we’re not quite as perceptive as we’d like to believe.
The time we make to connect with others and how we do so are both related to our wellness, making them deserving of attention and energy.
It's understandable that many people are not in a big hurry to try couples therapy. Here's why they might want to give it a shot anyway.
Researchers haven’t identified a way to prevent the wellness perks of vacation from waning, but they’ve been examining what's connected to how readily those perks wear off.
Even if our partner seems outwardly angry or nonchalant, we might want to consider the possibility that we’re only seeing the cover of a more fragile, concerned interior.
If I told you that gratitude is good for couples, this probably doesn’t seem all that surprising. But what kinds of specific advantages is it associated with?
We often believe that if we repeat the same experience, it’s going to lose its luster. But research suggests this isn't true.
When we self-expand, we widen our understanding of who we are, what we’re able to do, and how we view life. This is linked to relationship wellness.
When the goal is to stand out amid the dating throng, it’s human to feel tempted to lie a little to reduce our chances of being rejected.
Holly Parker, Ph.D. is a lecturer at Harvard University and a psychologist in private practice.