Paul Joannides Psy.D.

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Banned by YouTube!

How to coax YouTube into the current century

Posted Apr 09, 2015

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In today's porn, anal sex is as common as heels with a black dress. 

Because many young men and women get their sex-ed from porn, we need to let young women know that anal sex is not something they have to do if they don’t want to.

We also need to tell young adults that having anal sex the way they show in porn is nothing short of crazy. And we need to do it in a way that's engaging and fun to watch.  

So I made a video titled Porn and Anal Sex. I posted it to YouTube last week, and within an hour, YouTube had banned it.

You will see more sexual anatomy at the beach or in the pool at the YMCA than in my Porn and Anal Sex video. There was nothing sexually enticing about the video. I had also checked the age-restriction box. Given the content on YouTube, there's no reason it should have been banned.

Then I started hearing from other sex educators who told me their sex-ed videos had been banned by YouTube. A colleague provided the ultimate in perspective: “Terrorists recruit on YouTube, but you can't post a sex-education video?”

It seems that sex education on YouTube doesn't stand a chance unless it’s done by bubbly twentysomethings who are giving blow job pointers. This would be fine if it were still the 1990s and porn hadn’t become the sex educator of our young.

Sex education today needs to get the attention of boys who watch porn on their phones during their middle school and high school classes. It needs to speak to the girls who have sex with them. And it has to be on YouTube.

I'm hoping that some day the executives at YouTube will pull their heads out of the sand and pay attention to what their own children are masturbating to. Maybe then they will agree that YouTube needs to be part of the solution.

As for my sex ed videos, the people at Vimeo have reviewed them and said they had zero problems with them—including the one YouTube banned. So my sex ed videos are alive thanks to Vimeo. Now, we just need to coax YouTube into the current century.

June 10 Update: I started a new YouTube channel, put in more than 100 hours improving the videos, and YouTube hasn't taken them down yet--including my video on Porn & Anal Sex. The trouble is, how do you justify putting the time and energy in promoting a YouTube channel when all it takes is one person flagging a video and YouTube takes it down? And you never know who's going to flag your video: someone from the conservative abstinence-only camp, or someone who doesn't think your video was liberal enough, or ???

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