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Tamar Chansky Ph.D.
Inner disorientation frightens us. By having compassion for our experience, we can find ourselves again.
The simple act of naming this pandemic time as trauma is a starting point that begins integration and healing.
Is it hard to feel love or anything good because we are so stressed out from the pandemic and life in general? Maybe the unlikely solution is to find ways to let ourselves cry.
We can choose to explore memories on our schedule, having support from others will help us heal and bring us closer.
When people we care about are struggling around us, what do we do? The alternative to toxic positivity is compassion and perspective. It’s empathy.
The pandemic has generated such a high baseline level of inner noise and anxious rumbling that it’s made it nearly impossible to focus on a conversation with another human being.
Fact-check your fears first so you can help your child feel safe.
Many people are still struggling with the fallout from COVID. And that's OK.
Over the river and through the woods to grandmother’s house we can’t go. Not this year.
With the staggering spike in COVID cases and the devastating rise in hospitalizations and deaths, we can’t not talk about this.
We need a new model for what has become the Herculean task of tending to our emotional survival. Hint: We can’t do it alone.
What's better than winning a fight in these "quaranteam" days? Having a fight end quickly. Here are a few helpful shortcuts.
In the midst of the greatest upheaval in recent history, why are students are still expected to get A's?
It’s time to step out of the normal, look at the big picture, and take the pressure off our kids by canceling grades in this pandemic semester.
The less we accomplish, the more stressed we feel. A little bit of structure goes a long way.
Our anxious scenarios— of coronavirus, of preparing for a two week quarantine, do not settle down at night. They climb into bed with us. Here are two easy ways to help you sleep.
Have your children ever hated their holiday gifts? Here are some strategies for you and your children to learn to handle disappointment more gracefully.
What can we promise our children? That we will be resilient, that we will be informed, that we will take action—and help them do the same.
We don’t have to do the far reach to someone else’s shoes to empathize with their struggle. We can do the much shorter commute, the very local one, to our own.
A new memoir by mental health advocate Amanda Stern describes growing up with an undiagnosed anxiety disorder.
No matter where your child is accepted, no matter where they attend, this moment does not determine their worth, nor does it define where they will go in their lives.
How knowing to look for the "aha middle"—and realizing that there are legitimate reasons behind every difference we encounter—can help us begin to anticipate each other’s stories.
While we may pin our hurt on others, it is really our beliefs about the meaning of events, about ourselves, about how things should be that are the culprits.
A chill comes over you and, paralyzed with fear, you worry if you really comprehend what this new life together might bring or even if you should really bring it.
When we are upset we want empathy, period. Not the laundry list of things we need, could, or should do. Not yet, and maybe not ever.
If you’re not so much feeling the zing of spring right now, no worries. Some spring cleaning may be in order.
It is difficult to access the joy that is right in front of us with the emotional clutter of negativity getting in the way.
Even in a crisis, even in an emergency, we work in shifts. Some of us always need to be on love duty. We need to put the oxygen masks on our relationships first.
Kids in college, apart from parent's texts, phone calls and occasional visits, are suddenly set with the task of carrying their own lives on their backs.
Parents are always in charge and the best way to show is not to rub it in, but to redirect your child's demands and teach them the difference between a preference and a protocol.
Tamar Chansky, Ph.D., is a psychologist dedicated to helping children, teens, and adults overcome anxiety.