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How to stand tall and live authentically.
Hannah Rose LCPC
What is blocking you from self-love? If you don't take a sledgehammer to those blocks, you will never be able to accept love from others, let alone yourself. The work starts now.
I have lived so much of my life wearing different masks: people pleasing, not setting boundaries, and internalizing everyone else’s truth as my own.
If someone shares something incredibly painful to you, the urge to "silver line" their experience may be visceral. But is this always helpful?
What does comparing do for us? Often, it validates an internal core belief that we are not good enough or are not able to reach our potential.
Loneliness can stem from a lack of authenticity in our relationships.
Why don’t we talk about how many of us would rather settle for mediocre relationships because that beats the potential of being alone?
Self-forgiveness begins and ends internally. Even if we may never be fully forgiven by others, that does not mean that we cannot find inner peace by forgiving ourselves.
Whether or not someone is going through something we deem to be objectively "worse" than we are, pain is pain. We need to stop minimizing our emotional experience.
Unless we are truly willing to process our deeply rooted core irrational beliefs, our emotional pain, and our grief, time doesn't do a thing.
We need to walk through the discomfort of uncertainty and vulnerability, into the world of authenticity and wholeness.
Do you ever feel like you're taking on someone else's problem as your own?
Self-love begins and ends internally—it cannot be contingent on how others feel about us, what they think about us, or what they say about us.
Part 2: We can’t minimize our grief because someone “has it worse.” Someone may always have it worse.
More often than not, we miss our opportunities for genuine empathy by trying to “fix” someone else’s emotional pain or quicken the grieving process.
When we gossip, we fertilize our minds with toxicity and judgment. We are much more likely to scrutinize ourselves when we are busy scrutinizing others.
We are conditioned to suppress our emotions, “man up,” and move forward. We are told over and over to “let it go” and “just don’t let it affect you.” These ideas are not helpful.
Courage, bravery, and strength do not exist without fear. Here's how to walk through it.
We cannot work through our addiction until we truly say goodbye to it. It's time to write a goodbye letter.
We must show up for all of our emotional experiences, no matter how painful. Otherwise, they are bound to continue to manifest in dysfunctional ways.
When we can identify our own emotional triggers, we get to free ourselves from the bondage of other people’s perception of us.
What problems do you need to confront and what is stopping you from doing so?
In order to truly experience closure, we need to internally allow the idea of “what could have been” to die.
Part Three: We often create scenarios in our relationships that validate our core beliefs about ourselves.
Part Two: We tell ourselves we are bad at commitment, but the reality is that we haven't dealt with unresolved wounds.
Part One: When you have a pattern of failed relationships, the only common denominator is you. We accept the love we think we deserve.
Have you been trying to quit nicotine with growing frustration? A few simple steps can go a long way.
One of the biggest lessons of my life: Choose people who choose you.
The most detrimental symptom of rejection is the almost inevitable phenomenon of decreased self-worth.
What would it be like to make decisions without fear of judgment? A quick guide on how to deconstruct people-pleasing behaviors.
No one on this planet thinks about you as much as you think about yourself.
Hannah Rose, LCPC, is a therapist, writer, public speaker, and lover of all things caffeinated.