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The Beauty of Solitude

Learn why it is healthy to stop and breathe.

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We are often so caught up in our day-to-day tasks that we forget to take care of ourselves. We lose sight of our identity and, instead, fall into the many roles that we acquire over our lifetime. While we may take great pride in (and find tremendous fulfillment from) our roles as leader, employee, spouse, partner, parent, child, or friend, we are more than just the roles that we play. We have individual thoughts, feelings, ideas, and emotions, all of which reflect the core of our being. We should nurture these individual aspects that make us who we are. We must recharge our batteries so that we are able to better help others.

But, why be alone?

For these reasons, it is important to take time for ourselves regularly. When we are alone, there are no false pretenses. We can just be. Of course, interactions with loved ones and friends are important. But, equally important, if not more so, is the beauty of peace and quiet. When we are alone, we have time to reflect on our day and to seriously consider those issues that need our undivided attention.

Determine your happy place.

Find time for yourself by taking a long shower or bath, or by taking a walk. Many find meditation and deep breathing exercises to be a helpful way to regroup and refocus our energy. For some, reading a book or drawing can bring about a sense of comfort and relaxation. Even setting the alarm ten minutes early so that you can sit in your bed and think about your goals for the day can do wonders for your overall mindset and inner peace.

It’s important to note that alone time doesn’t have to mean “down” time. While some may enjoy taking a deep breath while staring at the ocean, others may find the act of privately playing the piano or privately singing at the top of their lungs to bring that sense of fulfillment and completeness.

Copyright© 2019 Amy Cooper Hakim