Help! My Boss Doesn’t Like Me!

Here's how to gain the personal attention that you crave at work.

Posted Nov 15, 2018

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Do you long for a boss who stops by your desk to say good morning? Do you wish that your boss smiled back at you when you smiled at her? Do you ask your boss to lunch or coffee, only to get a flat-out rejection?

While it is true that we go to work because that’s our job, it is nice to be thought of as a likeable person at work, especially by the boss. Take note that some bosses are just not interested in making small talk. In fact, many bosses set boundaries and strive to keep things strictly professional at work. Still, we want to be heard and treated with respect. Further, it is incredibly motivating to feel noticed and important. Here are some easy ideas that might improve your likelihood of being noticed (positively) by your boss.

1.      Don’t wait for your boss to come to you! Instead, walk to your boss’ office in the morning and offer a quick “hello.”

2.      If you’re concerned that you may have offended your boss, ask him if you’ve done something to upset him, or if there is anything that you might do to help. Do not say, “Boss, why don’t you smile at me when I smile at you?”

3.      Ask your boss if she’d like to chat for a few minutes in the office. Spend time asking her questions about her role and her career path. That might open the door for her to ask you about your goals.

4.      Tell your boss that you admire his career path, and ask if you might spend some time chatting so that you could learn from him. Make sure that you are sincere in your praise.

5.      If it’s important to you that your boss know something about a personal life event, then share this information concisely with your boss, even if she doesn’t remember to ask. Then, move on with your workday.

To Sum it Up

Try the tips above to improve your workplace relationship. Still, remember that a boss can be a good boss even if you have no personal or emotional connection. Always be polite to your boss, but take emotion out of that relationship. If you enjoy your job and your team rapport, spend your time focused on getting your work done so that you may be more available for relationships outside of the office.