Resilience

The 10 Things Resilient People Do

Do you want to become more resilient? Try practicing these ten things.

Posted Jan 23, 2017

Photo by Kristin Meekhof
Source: Photo by Kristin Meekhof

Resilient people tend to be in a category of their own. Certainly, everyone has setbacks; however, resilient people tend to not only land on their feet after a stressful event, but they seem to thrive. Wondering how they do it? Here are ten things resilient people do:

1. Resilient people talk to share thoughts, not to convince. Certainly there is a place and time to pitch an idea, but during conversations resilient people don't play defense or offense. Instead, they openly communicate their ideas and concepts. They listen to glean wisdom.

2. Resilient people ask for guidance. They are aware of their blind spots and where their knowledge base is weak. Resilient people are not shy about asking for feedback or help when needed.

3. Resilient people clearly see things. They have proper vision. While they can see obstacles in their path, they don't stay focused on them. Instead, they quickly lift their eyes above the barriers so they can see far ahead. This allows them to scan the big picture and gain perspective.

4. Resilient people live in the present. They know the past is frozen and don't ruminate it yesterday's events. While they are more than willing to learn from yesterday, they don't dwell in it.

5. Resilient people work very hard. They don't expect anything to be given to them, and they put long hours rather it is at home or in the office. Chances are many don't realize just how much effort they put into their projects and goals.

6. Resilient people practice gratitude. They are well aware that they are not alone in the universe, and others contribute to their happiness and wellbeing. They are appreciative of others and express it.

7. Resilient people are able able to cope with major setbacks in a healthy way. Whether it be a death, divorce, financial or business loss they don't let the heartbreak become a part of them. In other words, they know that this is just a part of their narrative, and they are already working to make themselves stronger because of it. They know their story doesn't end with a setback.

8. Resilient people are able to handle pain. They are able to stay present with the pain and understand that there is a greater lesson to be understood. Instead of trying to avoid a painful moment with denial they can withstand it. They don't attempt to numb the pain. They aren't insensitive, but they don't allow the hurt to become a part of them either.

9. Resilient people know how to handle rejection. They don't take it personally and don't feel like damaged goods. They are willing to try again and put forth an even greater effort to earn success.

10. Resilient people practice patience. They understand that many circumstances require them to delay gratification and control their impulses. Sure, they get frustrated, but they won't send an angry email or get discouraged at rejection. Resilient people know they need to be patient with their goals and with others.

Are you resilient? Please share a part of your story in the comment section below.

Kristin Meekhof is a licensed master's level social worker. She completed her graduate work at the University of Michigan and obtained her undergraduate degree at Kalamazoo College. She is the co-author of A Widow's Guide to Healing with cover blurbs from Deepak Chopra, MD, FACP and Maria Shriver.

Kristin will be at the Royal Oak Public Library on February 11, 2017. This is a free event. Link here.

In March, Kristin will be a panelist at this Harvard Medical School conference. Continuing education credits are available. She can be reached via her website.