3 Questions to Ask Yourself About Every Relationship

Feel free to correct me if I am wrong, but aren't codependent relationships also considered unhealthy relationships?

Yes, we should not rely on someone else to compensate for our shortcomings. But I am not sure why you feel that the next step up from "unhealthy" is "codependent."

Maybe it is. Perhaps I am missing something along the path.

Dwight, you are bringing up an excellent point. Inner ills can be soul wounds that occurred because of things other people or situations have done to us ... even things we have done. We have to release those by forgiving. Forgiveness isnt always easy especially the more serious the offense or transgression or thing that has grieved us. Grief, sorrow, hurts, resentment, anger, jealousy, bitterness, betrayal, loss, harm, are serious things to experience. Releasing/forgiving is not denying the wrong or the pain it caused .... it is the act of letting it go and turning it over to a higher power. Releasing/forgiving is not a feeling ... its a decision. A decision to stop letting the injury or harm or insult (whatever the transgression) continue to have control o er your feelings. Its often a process if the transgression was serious and long term or extreme.

Pastor Derek Prince taught on this from a biblical perspective and it really helped me understand and identify whats blocking me from getting well. Katie Souza provides a really light-hearted teaching on how to clear offenses from your soul and heal the inner wounds they make. Also a biblical perspective ... boy it worked! I really learned a lot and feel 70 lbs lighter .... and happier. Literally it lifted off me in a matter of a few seconds... that fast. It was physically weighing me down ... soul wounds.

3 weeks is way too early. Keep him guessing. It will only increase his interest in you. People are most interested in another person when that person is attractive to them but, that person appears ambiguous about his/her interest in them. Read https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201606/how-and-why-play-hard-get and https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/beautiful-minds/201101/the-most-powerful-law-attraction

Playing.... Would you want someone to do this to you?

Well I don't think you should throw all your cards on the table at one time so to speak.

But dating and marriage are not a game. You need to be honest.

You need to be careful at how fast you move.

You keep control by being honest but by getting him to answer your questions first. If he seems like he's not willing to answer your question then let him know you're not sure how you feel about it and see if you can get him to answer you then. You need to give him time 2 actually be in difficult situations where you see how he handles things. If you have friends or family members with kids and you want kids there needs to be a point and you're dating that you do things with kids so you can see whether he is comfortable with them and whether he is interested in children at all.

Men are very good at hiding their feelings especially when they can hide behind doing nice things to make you feel wanted or apreciated.

You need to understand how he views equality in the relationship. Does he believe he has to make all the decisions or that he Reserves the right to withhold information about his business or his finances how he spends his time when he's not with you. These are important things to know. Playing hard-to-get is a game that is a false way to proceed in a relationship. There is nothing wrong with you holding back a little bit on you feelings or opinions and most certainly holding back on sexual intimacy when you really don't know anything about him. Gain respect by respecting his opinions enough to ask about them. Gain respect respecting him sexual purity and emotional balance. Don't control him. Let him be free to express opinions that you don't agree with. You need to know this information, just as he does. so you don't make a mistake and get into a commitment based on enticing behavior and premature sexual intimacy.
I heard a man say a very interesting the truthful thing. When we date we put our best foot forward because we're interested in that person's attention. But after getting married we don't feel we need to take that much effort. And pretty soon the relationship is in trouble. Person feels like they can let their guard down and she thinks about themselves the other person didn't now have the opportunity to decide whether to accept it before the marriage. This Is dishonest when you think about it. You should spend your dating time not talking about your feelings get wrapped up in your feelings. You should talk truthfully about your beliefs, likes and dislikes goals and desires. There are plenty of women regret the day they met a man who once treated them with kindness and respect.

Keeping men guessing is a manipulative game. If he loses interest in an honest person tjen he wasn't one for you. If he expects mind games you will never be happy with him. he will move on to a person who plays games and they will have problems in their relationship, even if it doesn't show on the outside to the public.

Getting yourself trapped in games will get old an you won't be able to just be yourself. And he won't love the real you because he loves the person playing the game. And you will end up feeling empty... This leaves a lot of women into into anguish and depression & self-defeat.

Think back about how you dated and how your marriage went the last time. Did you spend your time trying to impress each other and then find the marriage failed because one or both of you lost interest. Worst and there was a constant conflict because you disagreed about how to live life.

Playing.... Would you want someone to do this to you?

Well I don't think you should throw all your cards on the table at one time so to speak.

But dating and marriage are not a game. You need to be honest.

You need to be careful at how fast you move.

You keep control by being honest but by getting him to answer your questions first. If he seems like he's not willing to answer your question then let him know you're not sure how you feel about it and see if you can get him to answer you then. You need to give him time 2 actually be in difficult situations where you see how he handles things. If you have friends or family members with kids and you want kids there needs to be a point and you're dating that you do things with kids so you can see whether he is comfortable with them and whether he is interested in children at all.

Men are very good at hiding their feelings especially when they can hide behind doing nice things to make you feel wanted or apreciated.

You need to understand how he views equality in the relationship. Does he believe he has to make all the decisions or that he Reserves the right to withhold information about his business or his finances how he spends his time when he's not with you. These are important things to know. Playing hard-to-get is a game that is a false way to proceed in a relationship. There is nothing wrong with you holding back a little bit on you feelings or opinions and most certainly holding back on sexual intimacy when you really don't know anything about him. Gain respect by respecting his opinions enough to ask about them. Gain respect respecting him sexual purity and emotional balance. Don't control him. Let him be free to express opinions that you don't agree with. You need to know this information, just as he does. so you don't make a mistake and get into a commitment based on enticing behavior and premature sexual intimacy.
I heard a man say a very interesting the truthful thing. When we date we put our best foot forward because we're interested in that person's attention. But after getting married we don't feel we need to take that much effort. And pretty soon the relationship is in trouble. Person feels like they can let their guard down and she thinks about themselves the other person didn't now have the opportunity to decide whether to accept it before the marriage. This Is dishonest when you think about it. You should spend your dating time not talking about your feelings get wrapped up in your feelings. You should talk truthfully about your beliefs, likes and dislikes goals and desires. There are plenty of women regret the day they met a man who once treated them with kindness and respect.

Keeping men guessing is a manipulative game. If he loses interest in an honest person tjen he wasn't one for you. If he expects mind games you will never be happy with him. he will move on to a person who plays games and they will have problems in their relationship, even if it doesn't show on the outside to the public.

Getting yourself trapped in games will get old an you won't be able to just be yourself. And he won't love the real you because he loves the person playing the game. And you will end up feeling empty... This leaves a lot of women into into anguish and depression & self-defeat.

Think back about how you dated and how your marriage went the last time. Did you spend your time trying to impress each other and then find the marriage failed because one or both of you lost interest. Worst and there was a constant conflict because you disagreed about how to live life.

I don't think Marcos was actually complimenting your article or post. It would be nice if there was a way to remove all the spammy posts from the comments.

I guess I don't feel unappreciated from all my relationships. Thus, if I feel appreciated, then the relationship is still healthy. What about with family? My relationship with my parents might be unhealthy according to your article, but I can't find new family.