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Relationships
The Trouble with Relationship Labels

Roger Cahak M.A., LPC, CTP on January 21, 2026

Boyfriends? Lovers? Partners? A couple? Why do we feel the need to define, name, and categorize a relationship when it might be unnecessary?

Boyfriends? Lovers? Partners? A couple? Why do we feel the need to define, name, and categorize a relationship when it might be unnecessary?

Identity
Becoming Ourselves

Roger Cahak M.A., LPC, CTP on March 12, 2025

Does our identity become fixed by a certain stage in life, or is it always evolving? We gain insight into that question as we openly explore the intricacies of the self.

Does our identity become fixed by a certain stage in life, or is it always evolving? We gain insight into that question as we openly explore the intricacies of the self.

Family Dynamics
The Pain of Ambiguous Loss

Roger Cahak M.A., LPC, CTP on February 17, 2025

More than a quarter of families are coping with relational cutoffs. Why? The answers are nuanced, complex, and unique to each family, but some common themes are worth exploring.

More than a quarter of families are coping with relational cutoffs. Why? The answers are nuanced, complex, and unique to each family, but some common themes are worth exploring.

Assertiveness
A Fork in the Road: Which Path to Take?

Roger Cahak M.A., LPC, CTP on September 9, 2024

We are often forced to make a decision that requires us to either take action or sit back and do nothing. How do we know which is the right path?

We are often forced to make a decision that requires us to either take action or sit back and do nothing. How do we know which is the right path?

Anxiety
Oh, Sweet Surrender

Roger Cahak M.A., LPC, CTP on November 28, 2022

Maybe the act of surrender is more nuanced than we thought it to be. U2's iconic rock star Bono believes it is.

Maybe the act of surrender is more nuanced than we thought it to be. U2's iconic rock star Bono believes it is.

Health
Is Your Therapist a Wounded Healer?

Roger Cahak M.A., LPC, CTP on December 30, 2021

Why does someone choose to become a psychotherapist? The answer is often found in an exploration of their own mental health issues.

Why does someone choose to become a psychotherapist? The answer is often found in an exploration of their own mental health issues.

Sport and Competition
It's Easier Not to Be a Great Athlete

Roger Cahak M.A., LPC, CTP on August 8, 2021

How can prominent Olympians and other athletes have mental health challenges? Don't they have it all? For answers, we have to explore their relationship with performance.

How can prominent Olympians and other athletes have mental health challenges? Don't they have it all? For answers, we have to explore their relationship with performance.

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