My High School Reunion? No Way!

Take the step to update your sense of who you are.

Posted Feb 05, 2015

After surviving the agony and ridicule of high school, why even consider going to your high school reunion? Who wants to revisit that uncomfortable, dark, confusing time?

Consider the following story. Mike’s reunion was coming up, and he decided not to go. He was already in touch with those he cared to see, and thanks to Facebook, he had already reconnected with the classmates whom he could really call friends. As far as he was concerned, there was no need to see anyone else.

But as people began posting about the upcoming reunion, he started to experience that gnawing feeling of being left out … all over again.  Of course, this time he was excluding himself. By not going he was both protecting and hurting himself.

Eventually he changed his mind: “Everybody else was getting excited and I knew that I could hang out with my closest friends to feel safe.”

Mike had a great time.  It was fun for him to see people he hadn’t seen in decades and share memories of those young times.

More important, he got to update his experience. People who had teased him back then were now friendly. This was a surprise to him. Even though Mike realized that back then his classmates made fun of him due to peer pressure, he was prepared to deal with it all over again.  He was ready to face those who had tormented him so many years ago, but it turned out that not only had he changed -- they had too. He also realized that he had been so busy hiding himself in high school that he actually hadn’t noticed how many people really liked him. He couldn’t see it.

As an adult, having an opportunity to move beyond the confines of adolescence can make you feel better about yourself, if you are willing to take the risk. It may provide the chance to make peace with your adolescence and really leave those challenges behind.