Tried and True

Anxiety

The Healing Balm of Tolerating the Things We Don't Prefer

Debbie Joffe Ellis on January 17, 2021

Choosing to tolerate the things we don't prefer but may not be able to change at a particular time, is the cure for much anxiety and distress, and can create calm and tranquility.

Choosing to tolerate the things we don't prefer but may not be able to change at a particular time, is the cure for much anxiety and distress, and can create calm and tranquility.

Gratitude

The Hopefulness Cure

Debbie Joffe Ellis on December 18, 2020

Having survived 2020, an unusual year that was filled with unfamiliar and unique challenges, there is much we can learn from it, and feel grateful for. If we choose to do so.

Having survived 2020, an unusual year that was filled with unfamiliar and unique challenges, there is much we can learn from it, and feel grateful for. If we choose to do so.

Catastrophizing

The Catastrophizing Cure

Debbie Joffe Ellis on August 28, 2020

Though circumstances out of our control may be extremely difficult to manage, we can still choose to control and create our emotional experiences—despite and including our challenging times.

Though circumstances out of our control may be extremely difficult to manage, we can still choose to control and create our emotional experiences—despite and including our challenging times.

Anxiety

Stop: In the Name of Sanity

Debbie Joffe Ellis on March 2, 2020

Many people are experiencing extreme anxiety due to the appearance of the Corona-virus, yet we can choose to create calm & stability by adopting a realistic and rational attitude.

Many people are experiencing extreme anxiety due to the appearance of the Corona-virus, yet we can choose to create calm & stability by adopting a realistic and rational attitude.

Cognition

The Malady of Thinking “It Hurts”

Debbie Joffe Ellis on October 8, 2018

When traumatic events happen we need not be permanently scarred. With the willingness and effort to adopt realistic perspectives on such events - healthy emotions can be created.

When traumatic events happen we need not be permanently scarred. With the willingness and effort to adopt realistic perspectives on such events - healthy emotions can be created.

Gratitude

Remembering September 11th

Debbie Joffe Ellis on September 11, 2018

As painful memories are evoked, we can choose to focus on redeeming aspects and can be grateful for that which is good — despite the past brutal experiences from whence they came.

As painful memories are evoked, we can choose to focus on redeeming aspects and can be grateful for that which is good — despite the past brutal experiences from whence they came.

Environment

The Ravages of Nature: Human and Otherwise

Debbie Joffe Ellis on November 8, 2017

When tragic events occur, we can choose to focus on what still is good in life, create stability within, and consequently cope well and act in more effective ways.

When tragic events occur, we can choose to focus on what still is good in life, create stability within, and consequently cope well and act in more effective ways.

Teamwork

A Bird's Life in New York City

Debbie Joffe Ellis on June 4, 2017

By choosing to perform acts of kindness whenever possible, we help the lives of others and of ourselves, and can make our tender and vulnerable world more safe and stable.

By choosing to perform acts of kindness whenever possible, we help the lives of others and of ourselves, and can make our tender and vulnerable world more safe and stable.

Gratitude

Acceptance, Gratitude and Celebrating Life

Debbie Joffe Ellis on May 14, 2017

On some occasions when many people feel joy, others may suffer painful emotions. We can choose to adopt a healthy perspective - and feel uplifted instead of deprived & depressed.

On some occasions when many people feel joy, others may suffer painful emotions. We can choose to adopt a healthy perspective - and feel uplifted instead of deprived & depressed.

Grief

You Can’t Always Get What You Want !

Debbie Joffe Ellis on November 15, 2016

Many people are experiencing intense emotions after the results of the November 2016 election. Those in distress have the power to change their feelings, if they choose to do so.

Many people are experiencing intense emotions after the results of the November 2016 election. Those in distress have the power to change their feelings, if they choose to do so.

Wisdom

Happy Birthday Albert Ellis PhD !

Debbie Joffe Ellis on September 27, 2016

Albert Ellis PhD - Pioneer, maverick - creator of unique wit and know-er of wisdom, changed the lives of millions through his innovative works, huge body of writings, and example.

Albert Ellis PhD - Pioneer, maverick - creator of unique wit and know-er of wisdom, changed the lives of millions through his innovative works, huge body of writings, and example.

Wisdom

Remembering Mother Teresa: Now Saint Teresa of Calcutta

Debbie Joffe Ellis on September 5, 2016

People who inspire us by their efforts in helping others remind us of the privilege and fulfillment of providing care, compassion, kindness, and helpful deeds for people in need.

People who inspire us by their efforts in helping others remind us of the privilege and fulfillment of providing care, compassion, kindness, and helpful deeds for people in need.

Anxiety

Sleep With Arianna Huffington, and Others

Debbie Joffe Ellis on August 28, 2016

Getting sufficient sleep is important, and many people feel anxious when unsuccessful at doing so. Thinking in healthy ways to reduce anxiety allows better sleep, and waking life!

Getting sufficient sleep is important, and many people feel anxious when unsuccessful at doing so. Thinking in healthy ways to reduce anxiety allows better sleep, and waking life!

Anxiety

Along Came a Spider...

Debbie Joffe Ellis on June 19, 2016

Life contains the unexpected. Prevention IS better than cure! To help us cope with any alarming circumstances, we had better practice healthy thinking BEFORE adversities arise.

Life contains the unexpected. Prevention IS better than cure! To help us cope with any alarming circumstances, we had better practice healthy thinking BEFORE adversities arise.

When rotten happenings occur such as tragic events, not getting what we want or getting what we don't want: we can choose to make effort to minimize our suffering and maximize joy.

Optimism

The First Time

Debbie Joffe Ellis on May 7, 2016

When we think in overgeneralizing ways we set ourselves up for a fall. Let's create a habit of thinking about our thinking, choosing healthy thinking, which results in greater joy.

When we think in overgeneralizing ways we set ourselves up for a fall. Let's create a habit of thinking about our thinking, choosing healthy thinking, which results in greater joy.