A Spiritual Vampire: How to Eradicate a Narcissist’s Energy
Narcissists are a symptom of the issue, our trauma, and can awaken our recovery
Posted Jul 08, 2019
By Melanie Tonia Evans
Yes, narcissists are vampires and they are sucking our Life-force. However, if we just put it down to evil and believe that this can happen to anyone, then we are dangerously in Wrong Town.
Likewise, we are in Wrong Town if we believe we must be on the lookout for these people to avoid them, and therefore we don’t look within ourselves to heal what we need to.
I much prefer Right Town, which means taking the personal responsibility to know that we are the generative source of our own experience. This is what I know as the number one criteria in narcissistic abuse recovery, the acceptance of "this is happening for me."
If we know there is only Light and Love, we know that no matter what our experience at a soul level is, it is perfect. We are being brought the experiences to wake us up into our inner healing truths to become the people we need to be, to up-level and move beyond our previous separation and fearful beliefs.
Then we can start being Who We Really Are—not small separated beings thrown out of the Oneness, but incredible holistic, connected, magnificent Beings instead.
I truly don’t know of any process more powerful than narcissistic abuse to bring us to that place of awakening.
I want you to think about this.
Our separation beliefs are: "I am defective, unloved and unwanted. I must be being punished. I am on my own; it’s me against life. It’s not safe to be myself. It’s not even safe to be in life or alive. I am not supported by Life/Source/Creation, and I have to earn my right to exist. In fact, I don’t get support from anywhere. There must be something wrong with me. Maybe I’m cursed because my life is a struggle and I am always up against everything that is pitted against me."
Can you relate?
After narcissistic abuse, we feel like this horrifically. When we start doing the real Quantum inner work to heal from narcissistic abuse, we find out that many, if not all, of these beliefs were already in our Energy Field—from collective human beliefs, past lives, genetic family history and, of course, our childhoods. In fact, we have been repeating these painful beliefs, which have been holding us separated to varying degrees from the Oneness and the Light that is the REAL truth.
The narcissist was the messenger of these traumas, ironically appearing to be the saviour of them. Because we were living our own separation beliefs of being outed from Oneness, we assigned this person as a False Source' as the Light. Metaphorically this person became a God or a parent to us. The person to take away the pain of feeling unloved and unworthy.
Maybe before narcissistic abuse, we knew we were in pain and knew we weren’t whole. Or maybe we were so busy trying to survive in life, as a result of doing life from the outside in (separation) that we had no idea because it was all we had ever known. Often, because these traumas were our normal, we have been carrying them in our Being for goodness knows how long, it’s not until we graduate back home to our Connected/Oneness beliefs that we realise how separated we have been.
And how painful and traumatic that was.
The Power in the Belief of Good
The reason I called this section, "The Power In The Belief of Good" is this: When we know the horrific pain of the trauma and beliefs of separation are happening to us for a reason, for us, then we know we need to heal. We know we desperately need to find a way out of the internal hell that all of the false beliefs and traumas have cast us into.
If we don’t awaken and align with the truth, what are we going to do? Attempt to medicate the trauma away so that we don’t feel anything at all? Or cross the line into selling our soul and becoming a narcissist ourselves to try to escape the inner hell that we are now living in?
Or, will we heal for real from this and release ourselves into our True Self and True Life?
Naturally, I take a stand for the later. I’ve said so many times to this community, "You could not give me any amount of money to go back to who I was, and the life I lived, even before narcissistic abuse." Thank goodness I made the journey to my True Self and True Beliefs and still continue this journey every day.
As a result, I am thrilled to be in my body, on this planet, doing this Life. The pain has gone, and constant joy, growth, possibility, and miracle are available. And I know that this awaits every Thriver who takes this journey too.
This is what I truly believe ‘evil’ is… It is the absence of Light. It is the dire separation from the truth.
And I believe ‘hell’ is a state. It is being immersed in the false beliefs and traumas that are NOT the truth of Who We Are.
Narcissists live in that place, they are stuck there, but we don’t have to be.
There is a way out.
Narcissists Are the Symptom Not the Problem
Here is another controversial statement.
Narcissists are not the issue; they are the symptom of the real issue.
The real problem is the belief of separation within humanity, causing people to be in trauma and pain and hurt. It’s people spreading this psychic disease of separation further and further by looking at life from the outside in, there is always someone else to blame in my victimhood.
When our soul has had enough of this state and knows it’s time to be free of these traumas and false beliefs, the unconscious will become conscious. That’s when the evidence that we are in Wrong Town can turn up in our life as a narcissist.
When we are carrying the traumas of separation, and everything within our belief system is painful, lacking and limited, then the people who match these beliefs turn up and ingrain themselves in our experience.
But when they smash us hard enough, we awaken to the interconnected powerhouse creator that we are which is this, my life unfolds to the letter according to my Belief Systems.
So, if you believe and understand that you are a Powerful Quantum Creator Beyond Measure, please write exactly that below.
Like a leaking roof that is being ignored, or a car that is getting driven despite the engine making really weird grinding noises, the traumas of separation, and the breakdown get worse and worse until they get your attention. And this is all because they are false and defective and not organically functional.
Narcissists are the poster people representing that experience.
When we believe we are separated and hurting, and we don’t take on the inner Quantum power to heal ourselves, we try to get the fix on the outside and in doing so hand our power away and get abused. Until we turn inwards to heal our painful, false belief systems, we cling and try to force the abuser into saving us.
And things get worse and worse and worse until we stop doing this.
It’s heartbreaking and it just doesn’t work. The narcissist, who is stuck in his or her own trauma and survival delusions, fully believing that you are the cause of their issues, believes to feel better he or she is entitled to take your lifeforce and everything that is yours. Hence the being sucked dry by the narcissist’s vampirish ways.
There are no happy endings in this dynamic. And even if we do get away and believe that the narcissist was the issue, then why can’t we heal? The answer is simple. Because we haven’t yet released ourselves from the traumas and beliefs of the biggest disease to ever infect this planet, the lie of separation.
It’s only by letting go of False Sources (aka narcissists) and doing what we have always needed to do, come inside and face and unpack our traumas and false beliefs on the inside of us, that we get our salvation.
The Truth About Detoxing a Narcissist
The real evidence of any truth is when it works.
The Thrivers who are mentally, emotionally, and spiritually free of narcissists—even those they still have to parallel parent with—are free because they went to their traumas, as someone would a leaky roof or grinding engine and fixed the inside issue. They healed their beliefs of separation.
When we do this with our triggered traumas, which are catastrophic after being smashed by narcissists, one by one they leave our Being. And as they go, with them goes the false belief(s) connected to the trauma.
We literally unpack ourselves from the human madness and pain that we have been entrenched in. We learn how to be in life in a connected way, knowing what it is to Go Quantum and have Life/Source/Creation flowing through us as us.
We know that Life unfolds itself in our experience to the letter according to our Inner Belief systems, and that when we heal these beliefs not only does our entire experience change, but also we deeply change at our core. We no longer play life the way we used to.
We get better and we do better.
We live life powerfully, as a master of our life from the inside out rather than as a victim of life from the outside in.
I promise you when you get to that level – and even when you are in the process of it – the narcissist becomes less and less valid in your experience. You’ll get to the point where seeing him or her is as quickly forgotten as stepping over a slug on the pavement and moving on.
When you have truly understood that a narcissist’s purpose in your life is to thrust you into the deepest experience of darkness to become and anchor the Light, for yourself and humanity, then you know and start living in the truth.
I promise you that when you get there, your soul contact is complete and all that hurts, including your trauma symptoms, goes. You also go free of previous limitations and fears.
The narcissist will leave your experience and go smash someone else’s separation beliefs into fully blown consciousness, granting them exactly the opportunity you just experienced.
©Melanie Tonia Evans, 2019, Republished from original with the permission. Melanie is a narcissistic abuse recovery expert and speaker; founder, Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program (NARP).
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