There are a number of reasons people profess wanting enlightenment yet don't follow through, fall short, or deviate from the path. The easy answer is that it is hard. But what makes it hard? What makes it so attractive to remain unconscious?
There are simple and proven techniques that can allow you to use your mind more effectively, and it begins with talking to yourself. Though long viewed as a sign of possible mental illness or decline, studies indicate self-talk, including talking aloud can lead to positive outcomes.
There are a number of forces working against sustained effective and meaningful conversation in relationships. These forces range from evolutionary drives to acclimation to drives to succeed. Despite the forces working against a relationship, there are strategies that can be utilized to prevent or reverse these negative trends. It starts with mindfulness.
"Everyone has won, and all must have prizes." The Dodo Bird Verdict, as it is now called, is from Alice's Adventures in Wonderland. The Dodo Bird suggested a competition where everyone ran around to dry off. Since no record was kept of how far or long everyone ran, when asked who won the dodo bird proclaimed all had won. This was later used to proclaim all therapies work.
Acceptance is viewed by many as a negative resignation, surrender, giving up. Not only is it not quite as simple as this, it has been found to be an effective strategy for lasting happiness. Combined with appreciation and resonating with the positive, science has demonstrated this is a powerful force in improving one's quality of life.
In 2001 a humorist and historian offered "This American Life" his informal study of how and why people choose invisibility or flying when offered a choice of these superpowers. He then proffered that perhaps the question indicates whether you want to embrace your dark side, or simply move toward being all you can be.
Enlightenment has been described as simply as a deeper knowing, or more profoundly, as a transformation of consciousness. You are already on the path to enlightenment. There are simple, mindful ways to further progress and reap the benefits of enlightenment.
Kanye West is a polarizing figure. But we possess many of the same qualities that lead to him being described as “a caricature of the egocentric modern celebrity” (Hawking, 2013). Projection, our own hypocrisy, and a fervent desire to holder own opinions as correct contribute to us being no better.
Many writers of enlightenment talk about how it lies within us; how our egos must be transcended, how the ego cannot transcend itself, and how all our knowledge works to inhibit enlightenment. Yet we continue to write about it, as the knowledge must be transmitted. The goal, however, remains to reach the inner peace that lies beneath all of the knowledge.
Essential freedom, defined as "freedom of being", is often neglected in our culture. Despite the writing of many scholars and existential theorists, the general populace continues to value existential freedom (to act on choices) over essential freedom. The recent gift-giving holiday and New Year's holiday mirror this unnecessary, but often fought, conflict.
“Many refuse the loan of life to avoid the debt of death”. This quote of Otto Rank may be at the root of why many complain about life nearly incessantly, yet fear every threat to their life that comes along. In the existential view, many do not truly live out of their fear of dying. However, being aware of death can bring more pleasure and vibrance to life.
Technology has moved society, and therapy, forward. Yet there are drawbacks no one seems too concerned about. One is the conditioning for an immediate solution. Despite the empirical evidence short term therapy can be effective, there is still a need, and many benefits, for long term therapy. Yet it seems very few have the patience for it.
There is a great deal of variance in giving a traffic citation. Some of this is dependent on what the officer feels like doing, or what he/she focuses on. We have come to accept this. Yet, we wouldn't want this to be true of a mental health diagnosis. Unfortunately, there is evidence this occurs in this area as well. Diagnosis isn't as scientific or as perfect as believed.
Codependency can be a tough addiction to overcome. Often it isn't even noticed. When it is a problem someone wants to change, it is more difficult if one wants to maintain the relationship, but make it healthy. With focus and work it can be done.
What many people believe is normal and healthy love, is actually nothing more than an addiction. And like any addiction, people protect themselves from the truth with defense mechanisms. However, several prominent writers have purported the truth about "love", and many others have agreed on the determinants of healthy love.
Sexual addiction is a controversial topic. In this essay the criteria are explored and compared to the behavior of a famous Buddhist monk, Master Ikkyu Sojun. Master Ikkyu was a Buddhist monk who sung the praises of sex in his poems, and with his behavior. Buddhist monks are expected to refrain from sex. But did he meet the criteria for sexual addiction?
Your brain is lying to you. It wastes your energy, taking you on fear (anxiety) fueled drives. Part of the lie is how important you, and your thinking, is. In creating this perception it makes itself seem useful. But instead you can use your mind to overrun the brain, and create more happiness in your life.
Control is an ultimate goal in psychology. The belief one has control in a situation, as well as the perception of control, lead to better outcomes on biological and psychological testing and are associated with happiness. Yet the idea one needs to control is inappropriately applied to situations and then brings unnecessary suffering.
The male member teaches valuable lessons about oneself, relationships, and life. However, these lessons can be easily overlooked or discarded if one is not attentive. This article attempts to point out how the penis might be trying to teach a valuable lesson in acceptance, unpredictability, animal nature, or even enlightenment.
Our ideas of relationships have been conditioned through our experiences, including everything from Disney movies to our actual romantic encounters. As with any other aspect of our lives, we can consciously question where are beliefs originated, and decide what to keep and what to discard. This may lead to more fulfilling relationships.
The idea of manifesting one's reality has been around a long time, and has a prominent place in mysticism. Psychology explains it in more scientific terms, including focus and perception, and self-fulfilling prophecy.
You can use this idea to create a better, more ideal, version of yourself.
Sex affects thinking. Major psychological theories, research, and pop-culture support this. Yet many ignore this, either unconvinced or feeling powerless over it. Adding questions as to whether, or how, sex is affecting your thinking can bring about a more mindful approach to your life.
Existence is suffering. This is the first Noble Truth in Buddhism. But, as comedian Louis CK (and many other prominent scholars) points out, in developed countries we tend to create our suffering. Perhaps this is due to a natural psychological mechanism, but it can be overcome with mindfulness and a focus on creating and becoming your ideal self.
The "Other Life" exists in several ways. One detrimental way is when one compares herself to a perfectionistic ideal, regretting her place in life for the path not taken. Another detrimental example is when someone chooses fantasy life to the detriment of his actual life. A more fulfilling life begins with embracing the present and the choices that have been made.
“Some people care too much. I think it’s called love.” A.A. Milne said this as Winnie the Pooh. Caring too much is painful. to protect themselves many withdraw, or deflect issues to the outside world so as to not feel their pain. But love is also essential to changing the world and to bringing one to self actualization. Overcoming the fear starts with self love.