A loving relationship can be an oasis in uncertain times, but nurturing it requires attention, honesty, openness, vulnerability, and gratitude.
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My path of acceptance.
William Berry, LMHC., CAP.
Grief is one of the most painful negative emotions that everyone will experience. It is normal to experience an array of emotions during grief, both negative and positive.
It is undeniable that life is hard. But even as amenities have made life easier, the perception that life is hard persists. Some of this is perception and can be tweaked.
Science supports meditation and mindfulness. Yet many find it difficult and have unrealistic expectations for what it is and how to do it.
There are three levels of personality: Basic traits, characteristic adaptations, and the story of you. Creating congruence (through adversity) leads to better mental health.
Change is difficult. The part of the brain that controls most drives and motivation is old and well-tested. But you can make changing easier with some understanding of the mind.
The pandemic is, and should be, causing an existential crisis for millions. But crises needn't be bad. Facing one's existential angst can lead to a more fulfilling life.
COVID-19 may be a defining moment in our history. While this is happening, cognitive distortions have affected how the event is perceived. Yet we can decide how it will define us.
The "you" that surfaces at any given time is dictated by the situation and personal history, as well as a third component. This component leads to the freedom to be who you choose.
Many people are in recovery from something, whether diagnosed or not. This post explores the similarities between The Recovery Model, Positive Psychology, and Self-Actualization.
Cheating seems endorsed by more and more students.This may relate to moral development and self-actualization.
Disagreements easily lend themselves to winners and losers, a zero-sum arrangement. But with a little time and effort, a healthier and more effective approach can be enacted.
The goal of the brain is functional unconscious. But when it comes to making a relationship work in today's world, that can lead to relationship problems. Mindfulness can help.
No one likes to admit it, but everyone judges. It has its root in evolution. One can use it to gain insight into ourselves by looking at what why it's being done.
The natural response to pain or depression is to avoid it and withdraw. Though difficult, the most promising strategy to confront it, and allow the stress to make you stronger.
Aging can be difficult. Many get stuck in the stage of accumulating, underestimate their decline, and end up feeling worthless and unhappy in their golden years.
Everyone expects to be happy. Evolutionary theory suggests that wouldn't be adaptive ,and instead we need to be otherwise motivated. However, equanimity may be more accessible.
Most of my writing focuses on not trusting thinking. In this post I attempt to illuminate the benefits and how accepting ambiguity is part of the path to enlightenment.
The malleability of memory is well established, as is confabulation. Yet most of us continue to believe our own thoughts without question.
The last movie in The Avengers series points to existential issues, such as impermanence.
Millennials are more entitled, narcissistic, and less empathic than previous generations, yet it isn't their fault and may have benefits no one saw coming.
Much of my writing focuses on how the mind deceives, and how silence should be cultivated. Relationships are the worthiest exception to silence, though quieting the mind can help.
It may have taken 48 years to answer the Bee Gees question about mending broken hearts, but there are things you can do to move through the grieving process appropriately.
Emotions drive our decisions, often without our even being aware. However, the effect of emotions can be reduced and perhaps eliminated by mindfully approaching them.
Physics suggests there is no free-will. Neuroscience and some theories in psychology agree. But, the power of data input cannot be denied. Input data here.
Social media research indicates that the use of social media has negative effects. However, there are positives to social media use, Using it mindfully is the key to benefitting.
The saying, "If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything" might be overrated and cause suffering. Less attachment to one's opinions may lead to happiness.
Philosophy has offered much advice on how to be happy. Even modern psychology suggests a change in personal philosophy will be helpful. You can change your philosophy with effort.
Ernest Becker suggested we need an illusion to overcome our fear of death, and that psychology could, in certain ways, serve that purpose. This post attempts to further that idea.
If you know it is easier on paper, why don't you stop criticizing yourself when you fall short? Studies indicate self-compassion is more effective than self-criticism.
The Recovery Model began with addiction treatment. Recently it has grown in popularity in the treatment of mental health issues. This post argues all can benefit from it's tenets.
William Berry is a psychotherapist and teaches at Florida International University. His area of interest is substance abuse and individual happiness.
The Second Noble Truth in Buddhism is "desire and craving is the root of all suffering." This blog will focus on the art of acceptance and how it brings happiness.