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My path of acceptance.
William Berry, LMHC., CAP.
Gaslighting is a common term identifying malicious intent. At the core is a questioning of reality, and if used correctly, that can be the beginning of enlightenment.
Are you unhappy with who you are? For some being more authentic could help. But for others, the creation of a more desired self is the best option.
Disguised evolutionary needs influences behavior. Understanding this can foster compassion for others and oneself.
The common idea that narcissists are everywhere hurting everyone is likely exaggerated—and may be a product of normal selfishness being given a psychiatric label.
Many experts agree that what is called love often is actually unhealthy. To be truly loving requires overcoming the default workings of the mind.
Complaining is often viewed as negative but it remains prevalent in our culture. There are several purposes complaining serves, but also drawbacks that can be incurred.
Many people avoid conflict or find it aversive. Most cling to beliefs and perceptions and see challenges as threats. Understanding common biases and cognitive empathy can help.
The idea that we are ultimately alone is unsettling at best, terrifying at worst. But to have truly loving relationships, one must face this fact.
People are taught to be civil. In the current political climate of this country, that may be discouraging discourse. The solution may be to be less offensive and less offended.
Popular culture is beginning to accept that within each of us, multitudes exist, and we needn't worry about it. In fact, accepting it can foster well-being.
"Just Do It" can be harmful or helpful, depending on the context in which it is used. This post helps you make the most of it for yourself.
Are you aware of the self-care behaviors that keep you stable? Utilizing these behaviors regularly enriches life and helps combat burnout, as well as feeling like life is only tasks.
Grief is one of the most painful negative emotions that everyone will experience. It is normal to experience an array of emotions during grief, both negative and positive.
It is undeniable that life is hard. But even as amenities have made life easier, the perception that life is hard persists. Some of this is perception and can be tweaked.
Science supports meditation and mindfulness. Yet many find it difficult and have unrealistic expectations for what it is and how to do it.
There are three levels of personality: Basic traits, characteristic adaptations, and the story of you. Creating congruence (through adversity) leads to better mental health.
Change is difficult. The part of the brain that controls most drives and motivation is old and well-tested. But you can make changing easier with some understanding of the mind.
The pandemic is, and should be, causing an existential crisis for millions. But crises needn't be bad. Facing one's existential angst can lead to a more fulfilling life.
COVID-19 may be a defining moment in our history. While this is happening, cognitive distortions have affected how the event is perceived. Yet we can decide how it will define us.
The "you" that surfaces at any given time is dictated by the situation and personal history, as well as a third component. This component leads to the freedom to be who you choose.
Many people are in recovery from something, whether diagnosed or not. This post explores the similarities between The Recovery Model, Positive Psychology, and Self-Actualization.
Cheating seems endorsed by more and more students.This may relate to moral development and self-actualization.
Disagreements easily lend themselves to winners and losers, a zero-sum arrangement. But with a little time and effort, a healthier and more effective approach can be enacted.
The goal of the brain is functional unconscious. But when it comes to making a relationship work in today's world, that can lead to relationship problems. Mindfulness can help.
No one likes to admit it, but everyone judges. It has its root in evolution. One can use it to gain insight into ourselves by looking at what why it's being done.
The natural response to pain or depression is to avoid it and withdraw. Though difficult, the most promising strategy to confront it, and allow the stress to make you stronger.
Aging can be difficult. Many get stuck in the stage of accumulating, underestimate their decline, and end up feeling worthless and unhappy in their golden years.
Everyone expects to be happy. Evolutionary theory suggests that wouldn't be adaptive ,and instead we need to be otherwise motivated. However, equanimity may be more accessible.
Most of my writing focuses on not trusting thinking. In this post I attempt to illuminate the benefits and how accepting ambiguity is part of the path to enlightenment.
The malleability of memory is well established, as is confabulation. Yet most of us continue to believe our own thoughts without question.
William Berry is a psychotherapist and teaches at Florida International University. His area of interest is substance abuse and individual happiness.
The Second Noble Truth in Buddhism is "desire and craving is the root of all suffering." This blog will focus on the art of acceptance and how it brings happiness.