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My path of acceptance.
William Berry, LMHC., CAP.
There are dozens of biases and cognitive distortions that affect our perception of the world. Realizing them, and learning to question and doubt thinking can create more peace.
Lying has been incentivized through being caught less, having less consequences, and others reacting better to lies. But to truly create yourself, you rise above this conditioning.
You can change your verbiage, change your story, and change your life.
Maslow identified needs which relate to a sense of security behind only physiological needs. Despite our sense of security, it is but a temporary state of illusion.
Many believe the adage, "a leopard doesn't change its spots" in regard to human personality. However, existential psychology purports you can be the master of yourself.
Many philosophies and religions have a good deal in common. Many may be surprised how 2 philosophies from different world views come to many of the same conclusions.
The mind is designed to trust itself, but psychology time and time again proves it is unworthy of that reputation. Research indicates we overestimate what will make us happy.
The idea that there may be no meaning in life leads many to feel lost and depressed. However, as pop culture as well as some educated thinkers profess, this needn't be.
There are techniques you can use to increase your fortitude. It all starts with changing perception.
A possible reframe for the approach and distancing pattern often found in couples counseling comes from evolutionary theory, and the module theory of mind.
Most believe that decisions are based on personality. Modern psychology suggests mental modules created through evolution and triggered by the situation are much more responsible.
Most parents feel they've done a good job, and wonder why their offspring aren't grateful. Many offspring have been hurt by their parents and wonder why they've never apologized.
Most people are detached from either themselves, nature, or even their close relationships. Others are treated as objects. This results in what existentialists call non-being.
"It doesn't matter," even when said facetiously, is an existential statement waiting to be actualized. It hints at the freedom to create meaning from meaninglessness.
"It is what it is" is often said as. a negative, as if one has no choice. However, the same words can be the beginning of an enlightened approach to life.
The "inner child" has been a popular idea in psychotherapy. Theories purport positives and negatives in it. There are ways to enhance the positives and reduce the negatives.
The idea of using meditation, mindfulness, and acceptance in psychotherapy may seem like a fashionable idea, but it has been included in addiction recovery since the beginning.
Depression, its symptoms, and a general sense of unhappiness are so common that antidepressant drugs have become the second most prescribed medication. But you can be happier.
This country is move divisive than I've seen it. Everyone is caught in their perspective, which is believed correct. But this can be transcended with focus on self-actualization.
Resistance to change abounds—for good reasons. But this resistance can be combated, and understanding its weapons is a good start.
Existentialists, Freud, Buddhists, as well as others, believe that there is pain inherent in life; that there is an emptiness that needs to be faced and cannot be avoided.
To use more words, and possibly reinforce my own ego, to argue for silence is ironic and paradoxical. But much of communication is mindless, and thereby detrimental.
The debate in personality psychology has been whether character traits or the environment have been more responsible for observable behavior. An underestimated aspect is the mind.
There is really one simple step to transcending romantic love: Stop making everything about you, and do for another. Compassion, loving-kindness, and just loving are the path.
One way to overcome, or at least mediate the pain inherent in life is to seek enlightenment. However, we often become entranced in the veneer of life, but yearn for something more.
Self-centered behavior is natural, but is detrimental to interpersonal relationships and an impediment to personal growth. Awareness can lead to using it to one's advantage.
Everyone has Buddha nature hidden underneath layers of conditioning. Recent science demonstrates thinking you are something brings your behavior closer to who you want to be.
We have the power in every moment to choose who we will be. This idea is empowering. In time one can be who one chooses to be, rather than who one was conditioned to be.
Arguing is often negatively affected by emotions. Mindfulness can go a long way to defusing this interference, and allowing a disagreement or conflict to be thoughtfully resolved.
Several famous people (and many more that we've never heard of) have muttered the words, "The heart wants what it wants". But there are reasons that some prefer to deny.
William Berry is a psychotherapist and teaches at Florida International University. His area of interest is substance abuse and individual happiness.
The Second Noble Truth in Buddhism is "desire and craving is the root of all suffering." This blog will focus on the art of acceptance and how it brings happiness.