The Psychology of Relationships

Relationships

How Long Should You Wait to Text After a Date?

Gary W. Lewandowski Jr. Ph.D. on January 23, 2026

Playing it cool, or hard to get, proves to be misguided.

Confidence

Tired of Faking It? How to Finally Feel Confident

Gary W. Lewandowski Jr. Ph.D. on December 10, 2025

Most people try to perform confidence, only to feel exhausted and unseen. Real confidence is quieter, truer, and the key to choosing love that actually fits.

Relationships

Dating Made Easy: The Power of Knowing What You Want

Gary W. Lewandowski Jr. Ph.D. on September 18, 2025

Tired of dating that feels draining and confusing? The secret isn’t dating more, it's dating clearer. Learn how being clear about what you want changes everything.

Ghosting

Why Partners Disappear: The Psychology of Ghosting

Gary W. Lewandowski Jr. Ph.D. on August 12, 2025

Ghosters hurt those left behind, but are they truly terrible people?

Mating

Our 6 Motivations for Seeking Love

Gary W. Lewandowski Jr. Ph.D. on July 15, 2025

3. It makes me feel good about me.

Relationships

Letting Go Takes Time: The Science of Missing an Ex

Gary W. Lewandowski Jr. Ph.D. on June 11, 2025

You broke up, but your heart hasn’t. Research reveals why letting go takes time, how long it takes, and what makes it better and worse.

Relationships

College Love Lessons: What High School Grads Need to Know

Gary W. Lewandowski Jr. Ph.D. on May 21, 2025

Personal Perspective: 10 lessons for incoming undergraduates about finding lasting love in college and building strong relationships from the start.

Relationships

Relationship Healthspan: Why Longevity Isn't What You Think

Gary W. Lewandowski Jr. Ph.D. on April 10, 2025

We celebrate long marriages—but should we? Discover why relationship vitality, not just longevity, is what truly matters.

Mating

The Science of Attraction: Simple Ways to Boost Your Appeal

Gary W. Lewandowski Jr. Ph.D. on March 18, 2025

Looking for science-backed ways to boost your appeal? Discover how authenticity, body language, and surprising social dynamics make you more attractive—beyond just physical beauty.

Relationships

The Powerful Alchemy of Relationship Synergy

Gary W. Lewandowski Jr. Ph.D. on February 7, 2025

Do you really know what you want in relationships? The secret to finding lasting love isn't what you think. Learn how relationship synergy turns "me + you" into something greater.

Mating

What's Most Likely to Give Daters "The Ick"?

Gary W. Lewandowski Jr. Ph.D. on February 7, 2025

Is an "ick" a true red flag, or just pickiness? It depends on who feels it.

Mating

21 Terms That Explain Modern Dating

Gary W. Lewandowski Jr. Ph.D. on January 20, 2025

Future proofing, cloaking, loud looking, and more.

Relationships

5 Questions to Answer Before Reuniting With an Ex

Gary W. Lewandowski Jr. Ph.D. on December 12, 2024

2. How have they changed? (And how have you?)

Gratitude

The Gratitude Effect: Love Grows When You Count Blessings

Gary W. Lewandowski Jr. Ph.D. on November 13, 2024

The most powerful solution to struggling in life might be simpler than you think. It starts with two words: Thank You. The result is an upward spiral that benefits relationships.

Relationships

The Invisible Erosion of Self in Avoidant Relationships

Gary W. Lewandowski Jr. Ph.D. on October 16, 2024

Are you afraid of losing yourself in the pursuit of love? New research suggests this fear might be overblown, especially for those with avoidant attachment.

Flirting

What Happens When Someone Flirts With Your Partner

Gary W. Lewandowski Jr. Ph.D. on September 3, 2024

Making sense of the attractive partner paradox.

Relationships

The 4 F's of Lasting Love: Simplifying Relationship Success

Gary W. Lewandowski Jr. Ph.D. on August 20, 2024

Fidelity, fulfillment, and more.

Mating

When Dating Feels Impossible: 4 Questions to Get Unstuck

Gary W. Lewandowski Jr. Ph.D. on July 9, 2024

Everyone hits a point when dating when they want to quit. Getting unstuck relies on using these four questions to stress test the faulty beliefs that shape your dating reality.

Artificial Intelligence

Can AI Help With Dating and Finding a Partner?

Gary W. Lewandowski Jr. Ph.D. on June 11, 2024

Modern daters increasingly use AI to make dating easier. But maybe they shouldn't.

Mating

The Psychological Science Behind Online Dating

Gary W. Lewandowski Jr. Ph.D. on May 15, 2024

What can you really tell from a photo? More than you think.