There are many temptations to organize our life around the experience of earlier trauma. But that may short-change the future—which starts by our envisioning something better.
Charles Darwin admitted in his Autobiography that his sister was smarter than he was. But he was doubtful of women's intellectual abilities in 'The Descent of Man.'
I love holidays at the winter solstice. I love making the deadest, darkest time of the year light and green. I love Santa. But have an almost irresistible urge to put on a pileus.